WHY SYSTEMIC PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT?

We are born into our family systems. No one asked us! Then we grow up, always seeking attachment and belonging, experienced and felt through recognition and love. Along our journey, we are confronted with expectations and demands, which can either inspire or humiliate us. We feel guilt for the first time and learn what it means to disappoint. We experience shame, the moment when we want to become invisible. We try to mimic our parents’ lives. We are conditioned by their behavior and value system. All of this shapes us. These can be beautiful experiences or negative ones; the negative experiences tend to have a stronger impact because we associate them with guilt and responsibility. We can rebel, flee, or play dead. All these responses become neurally wired as memories. As we grow older, we reenact these negative memories in our daily lives, in our partnerships, workplaces, or among our friends. Other people may trigger these reactions, but they are not the cause.

I provide systemic support to individuals and companies in successfully implementing their change processes. The goal is to prevent physical triggers of shame, stress, anger, sadness, nervousness, guilt, etc., allowing you to behave differently without judgment. This means letting go of injustice, ignorance, arbitrariness, and so on. The aim is to be free from all negative energies and feelings.

STRESS FACTORS

Dissolving the stress factors of this negative energy, which we have stored neurally, means letting go. It involves looking at them from our current situation and deciding to reevaluate them. Facing the pain of emotional injury and removing its energy in the here and now. Forgiving and pardoning is one way to embark on this path of letting go, to shed the anger over the injustice and misunderstanding regarding the behavior of family system members. It allows you to distance yourself from “wanting to punish,” “returning the suffering,” “seeking revenge,” and “proving a point.” Understanding in the context of the here and now opens the door to letting go. The assignment of guilt is the strongest negative energy/driver, either directed against oneself or others. To dissolve guilt, forgiveness and pardon are necessary. The final stage is accepting what has happened. Letting go of judgments towards those who have harmed me from my memory and thus my perception. Not presuming to be better than them. Accepting the behavior or actions of the past.

I will embark on this journey with you, supporting you. I will help you dissolve the stress symptoms related to your blockages, obstacles, and traumas neurally. The path of change, doing things differently the next day or the next week, is your path to walk, naturally with me as a sparring partner if desired.

I look forward to supporting you on this most important journey of your life.